“You can feel Paulé’s presence during your session and it provides a container of safety, hope, and transformation. They allow the client to be in the driver’s seat, reassuring you that it’s about what YOU want and they’re simply there to help guide and facilitate the connection with your internal guidance system, intuition, what-have-you. ”
— LAUREN H.
Door #1: Mind
We live in a world dominated by linear time and a hegemonic structure. We were trained from our youngest ages to ignore systemic inequality, live the myth “do it ourselves bootstrapping” and lose our desires and our sense of agency and interconnectedness with the human and more-than-human world in order to fit more neatly into the machinery of capitalism.
Let’s collaborate on ways to find your whole self within the matrix.
personal journeys
Are you unsure of where you want to go next with your life, or the best way to get there? Do you want to find a way forward, but don’t quite know where to begin?
Using a series of practical tools, I can help you get a handle on where you are now, articulate and uncover where you want to go, and make a concrete plan for how to move forward. We might look at the ways you spend your time, explore how the life you want to live feels, and identify the biggest obstacles standing in your way. As part of this, we work together to re-write the stories that you are telling yourself about your life.
Expect sticky notes and self-reflection; bring your determination and sense of humor.
Once we’ve figured out goals and plans, we can work on accountability. I’ll work with you to adjust your plans as they make contact with reality. We will adapt and persist to keep you on your path towards living the life story that you choose.
Ask me about:
How to take a sabbatical
Pursuing meaningful career change
Finding and creating meaning in your life
Adjust your life to care for a loved one without losing yourself in the process
Use practical steps towards realizing your dreams and making lasting change in your life
Downsizing, organizing, and moving
Are you drowning in stuff and don’t know where to begin to lighten your load? I use animism and compassion to help you navigate rehoming accumulated objects, shedding outdated items, and recycling or otherwise disposing of excess stuff in the most ethical way possible.
Downsizing and moving can be intense emotional experiences. I’ve helped clients pack up a beloved house full of objects in preparation for a big move, and freeze up when they open a drawer full of memorabilia or the door to a room that has been the catch-all for seldom-used items. I compassionately guide them through the process, and help them keep perspective that what they’re doing is hard work!
I love systems and enjoy collaborating with clients on how to make systems work for them. No one solution fits everybody. For example, if your counter is cluttered with mail, perhaps a solution is to find a way that works for that space, not try to create a whole new system or location. Organization systems are about ease and working with each person’s flow and space, not about reinvention. Who needs more work these days!?!
I maintain a sense of non-judgement about people and their things: no shaming or criticism!
Ask me about:
Mindfully downsizing and packing for a big move
Clearing out anything from a small closet to a whole house
Creating organization systems of relative order and clarity (no one is perfect)
career pathfinding
Trying to figure out the next step in your career - forwards, backwards, or sideways? Feel like you should be running in a different direction entirely? Do you want to find work that better aligns with your values, passions, and strengths?
I can help you chart a career path that fits you, and work with you to uncover the story of how the work you have done up until now sets you on that path. I’ve advanced, uprooted, restarted, and adjusted my career path numerous times in my life, and helped others do the same.
During my time in corporate management, I loved helping my direct reports get where they wanted to go in their careers - even when that meant them leaving the org and going in an entirely new direction. Working together, we can find your way to a career that sustains you in the ways that you value most.
Once we determine your direction, I will help you with the concrete next steps - whether that’s overhauling your resume and online presence, finding ways to gain the experience you need, or figuring out how to best tailor the story of your experience to the organizations you are applying to.
You can change careers… it’s a matter of the story you tell to future employers or clients!
Ask me about:
How to say “no” productively, without repercussion
Finding work in the intersection of your values and motivation
Negotiating what you’re worth (the real fun is in non-monetary compensation)
“Paulé helped me prepare for and assisted in the move from an apartment I had lived in for seventeen years! It was a massive undertaking and felt completely overwhelming until Paulé became involved. Paulé brought order, organization, a razor-sharp mind, humor, engineering know-how, and a full decade of experience as a roadie to the project of sorting through, packing, loading, unloading, and unpacking the possessions I had accumulated over almost 2 decades.”
— CLAIRE S.
Door #2: Body
Your body is a record of your memories. What does your body need to say to you or to express? Having a conversation with your body, mediated by a trained professional, can shift your relationship with yourself to a more whole and nurtured way of being.
dearmouring
Find home in your body. Dearmouring is a hands-on healing modality that has an effect on every level of our being: physical, emotional, mental, energetic, and spiritual. I act as a mediator for your body, listening to the subtle cues and use physical touch to gently create space and openings in the places where trauma and life’s experiences get stored away. It is a slow modality; I ask questions and prompt you for reflections as I go.
As we work, you can become open to feelings and inner wisdom, free of stuck emotions, unhealthy patterns, and old pain. Dearmouring reconnects us with the beauty and joy of life on all levels. We connect with our true selves and with our deeper purpose. We become authentic, empowered, and fully expressed human beings.
I completed my training with Dearmouring Arts in 2019 (I suspended sessions during the pandemic). I also have extensive practitioner training in Northern European magic, 200 hours of yoga teacher training, 150 hours of circulatory massage, and multiple anatomy classes. My dearmouring work synthesizes these trainings, and is informed by my own experience with chronic pain, trauma, and cancer.
This practice can be done externally and internally. At this time, I only offer external, clothed dearmouring work.
Ask me about:
Having a conversation with your gender experience, chronic pain, or medical diagnosis
Mediation with the being of cancer
belly-whispering :)
“Paulé’s not your typical coach. Smart, funny, experienced - yes. But also truly caring, supportive, creative, and in touch with deeper dimensions of the self. They bring an outsider’s view to the inside. You will not regret one minute of your time with Paulé.”
— KAREN H.
Door #3: Spirit
We need ceremony to mark time and rites of passage, yet most modern culture doesn’t recognize this. As a result, we become adults without ever going through the initiatory portals and part of our soul stays in arrested development. We can create ceremony and rites of passage to catch ourselves up with who we are in the present.
personal ritual
My practice is based in Northern European magic, the Celtic Wheel of the Year, and Seiðr mediumistic journeying. I studied ritual facilitation for self and others Ylva Mara Radziszewski, and I am fluent in invoking and holding ceremonial space, divinatory skills (not an exact science!), cleansing and blessing work, sacred witnessing, working with non-self energies, soul tending, elemental balancing, and offering council.
Rites of Passage rituals included birth, coming of age, leaving home, sacred union, transition, and death. The ceremony of the Wheel of the Year, is not only the seasons, it’s the seasons of life. Following these rhythms can help you know what to plant, tend, and harvest for a richer, more connected life. It’s a way to notice time more fully and be more connected to place.
Lately, I have been playing with layering Agile onto the Wheel of the Year to bring earth-based natural cycles into “square-world” pursuits
I am a middle-world witch, and I love bringing magic and ceremony into everyday life. We are so often disconnected from the earth and the larger rhythms of our world. Anchoring to the land you stand on and understanding where you are, why you are there, and who walked there before you is one of the most healing practices I’ve found.
I can help you design and hold ceremonies that will help you find your place on the earth and on the Wheel, and I can support you in finding everyday magic in your own life. I can also act as intercessor for you and places or processes that feel opaque, congested, or in need of cleaning or blessing.
Ask me about:
Designing your personal Rite of Passage
How to approach bigger ceremonies like “sitting out” for extended periods in nature and dark retreats
Blessing ceremonies for homes, buildings, and land
Ceremony for gender shifts
Transition ceremony for the passing of a pet
